More wisdom expressed in a pithy useful way: pursue intrinsic not extrinsic goals, to me, those most dear to your heart.

To me the best goals reflect our innermost, cherished needs, goals, and wishes. They come from the heart rather than being extrinsically imposed upon us by others. Carl Rogers the great humanistic psychologist would say, conditions of worth, as in I am worthy to mom, dad, my partner or friends on the condition that I…am always successful, nurturing to others, self-effacing, or even aggressive, perfect, and on top of my game! Inner goals transcend these efforts to please others.